Gaydar

For other uses, see Gaydar (disambiguation).
2018 pride parade attendee, wearing a shirt reading "I Have Awesome Gaydar."
A 2011 attendee of NYC Pride, dressed in fashion that may indicate connection to the queer community

Gaydar (a portmanteau of gay and radar) is a colloquialism referring to the intuitive ability of a person to assess others' sexual orientations as homosexual, bisexual or straight. Gaydar relies on verbal and nonverbal clues and LGBT stereotypes, including a sensitivity to social behaviors and mannerisms like body language, the tone of voice used by a person when speaking, overt rejections of traditional gender roles, a person's occupation, and grooming habits.

Similarly, transdar (a term in use since at least 1996) refers to the ability for trans people to recognize trans people who pass well, by subtle cues such as "the size of the hands and wrists".[1]

However, the assumption of sexual orientation by outward appearance or behavior has been challenged by situations in which masculine gay men (typically known as daddies) do not act in a stereotypically gay fashion, or in which metrosexual men (regardless of sexuality) exhibit a lifestyle, spending habits, and concern for personal appearance stereotypical of fashionable urban gay men.[2][3][4][5] For women, a tomboy might be mistaken for being butch, or a lesbian might act and appear in traditionally feminine ways.

Since at least 2015, media outlets such as Australia's ABC News have called the gaydar "damaging" and possibly "dangerous" due to its perpetuation of harmful stereotypes, its potential to lead to harassment, and its potential to dissuade people from coming out of the closet on their own terms.[6][7][8] Gayety argues that the only way to assess a person's sexuality is based on their open identification and whom they are dating.[9]

  1. ^ Friedman, Asia (2013-07-15). Blind to Sameness: Sexpectations and the Social Construction of Male and Female Bodies. University of Chicago Press. ISBN 978-0-226-02377-9.
  2. ^ McFedries, Paul (12 December 2003). "Metrosexual". Logophilia Limited. Archived from the original on 22 December 2007. Retrieved 2007-12-17.
  3. ^ Simpson, Mark (15 November 1994). "Here Come The Mirror Men". The Independent. Archived from the original on 22 December 2007. Retrieved 2007-12-17.
  4. ^ Simpson, Mark (22 July 2002). "Meet The Metrosexual". Salon.com. Archived from the original on 22 December 2007. Retrieved 2007-12-17.
  5. ^ Hackbarth, Alexa (17 November 2003). "Vanity, Thy Name Is Metrosexual". The Washington Post. Archived from the original on 22 December 2007. Retrieved 2007-12-17.
  6. ^ "Put your gaydar down and stop trying to work out people's sexuality". ABC News. 2015-09-08. Retrieved 2024-07-26.
  7. ^ "Your 'gaydar' is way off because it isn't real: study". ABC News. 2015-09-07. Retrieved 2024-07-26.
  8. ^ "Is he? Isn't he? Speculation over celebrities' sexuality could come at a cost". NBC News. 2021-11-23. Retrieved 2024-07-26.
  9. ^ Staff, Gayety (2022-11-19). "How To Tell If Someone Is Gay: Dispelling Myths & Outdated Stereotypes". Gayety. Retrieved 2024-07-26.